How to Stop Caring About Things That Don’t Matter — For Good

“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Prior, the “old me” would stress about so many things, family, friends, work and worldly issues - all things out of my control. I would worry about my parent’s happiness, my friends well being, my co-workers mental health and the company’s fiscal health. On top of all that, I would think of ways to help my community grow youth literacy through public and private partnership. Just writing all that out was exhausting. There are a lot of issues that I care about however from February till now, I had a lot of self reflection. I read the book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and it is not what you think. It short, it shares how to prioritize things you care about to live the life you want. Special shout out to Kelsey, thank you for gifting this to me! If you want the TLDR, watch Marie Forleo’s interview with author, Mark Manson here.

The conclusion is that I need to reframe how I look at things in life. To focus on the abundance of gratitude and love I have in my life. Moving forward, I want to channel my energy towards things I care about and let go of things that do not serve me. It is going to be a process and I will need to be patient. With myself and others (always).

I will continue to be responsible: pay my taxes, go to work, do a great job but let go of anything I cannot control. This new outlook has made me see I can really enjoy life. And it is okay to be happy. This week, a couple of wins for me, practiced yoga, went on some amazing walks and made some healthy dishes. Look forward to sharing more soon!