It started on Friday. It started off small… then snowballed into a big mess. Miscommunication.
Ive had several incidents this weekend due to miscommunication in my personal and professional life. It happens to all of us and I know that no one means for this to happen-regardless it did. It is now spilling into my Monday and I am determined to forgive, let go and move on. That seems like the only real way to handle it regarding communicating with my family.
Verbal communication exist in two forms for first generation Chinese:
1. Yelling to get your point across
2. Then not saying a thing at all to protest and act in a passive aggressive fashion.
This may not be true for all Chinese families, but I know that for mine, and some friends and agree that communication is not always a strength. We are much better at math and engineering (I need to exclude myself in this stereotype).
At this point with all that is going on, I know I need to take secret option 3.
Note to self (option 3): You cannot change anyone’s behavior or control what they say, only your reaction to it.
This is a lot easier said than done. But I know I can do it. I dont want to hold on to any negative energy as life is really what you make of it. 2012 has only begun and I want to do everything in my power to make it a positive one.
With work, there tends to be a million things happening all at once and I think I lose myself in the craziness. I was looking up ways to avoid miscommunication weather it be in a work setting or a family environment, and Psychology Today sums it up pretty well here: 9 Communication Tips to Help Improve Your Life
Another good site is Wiki How: How to Avoid Miscommunication
I am determined to make sure that I take in and listen more, speak less and obverse each person and situation involved. Are there any other tips that you would suggest?