Lately, I have been spending more time with my Chinese friends and family. I notice, as I grow older, I am relating more to my parents and understanding their culture, views and mannerisms. It is amusing to hear my friends exchange stories about their up bringing.
For example, I do think it is okay to hit your kids. I was hit as a kid, and I turned out fine (see photo below, i am still smiling!). However, you just cannot leave any marks- the U.S. looks down upon that. I am only joking!!!
Growing up in Texas though, it was that much harder to fit in. My parents did not understand why it was important to blend in and fit with the American ways. I knew I was different when I sported a knock-off Hello Kitty backpack that said “Happy Day Advtures” on the first day of school. Fast forward to my high school senior prom, I asked my mother for some money to attend the prom and she gave me $50.00. I asked her if it was for hair and make up. She responded, “It is for everything,”.
Top 6 ways to tell that you are Chinese…
1. Your parents gave you the bowl hair cut, save money
2. Your father thinks he can fix everything himself to save money
3. You/ your parents reuse foil, gift wrap, Ziploc bags
4. You/ your parents grab extra napkins, ketchup, sugar and other condiments that are available at McDonald’s/ Starbucks etc.
5. You parents do not say “I love you” or show physical affection
6. You carry Asian guilt for not following through with _______ (I am always guilted into things, enter situation in the blank given)
1. Own your own business (and you must be successful at it. No holidays open 365)
2. Become an accountant (or in the financial field i.e.: )
3. Become a doctor/ dentist (anything in the medical field that requires a Ph.d)
4. Become an engineer
5.Become a computer programmer or a tech/IT related position
6. An attorney
This post is not to offend any of my people, but just stating my experiences. To my family and friends, please share your stories! I know I am NOT alone! Many immigrant families all have similar stories about saving money to give their child a better life. I want to learn more! One of my favorite movies of all time is My Big Fat Greek Wedding- I could TOTALLY relate to that movie on so many levels! Another favorite is Joy Luck Club! I think if you mashed the two movies together the movie would be about my life and my future wedding!