Happy B-Lated Father’s Day!

Dad, you’re someone to look up to no matter how tall I’ve grown.  ~Author Unknown

Hope that all the fathers had a very Happy Father’s Day yesterday!
I know that I would not be the person that I am today if it were not for my father.

When I was growing up, he would be the guy who would love to go to Wendy’s at 8PM for a late night snack, usually fries and shakes! As I grew older, he taught me a lot about life lessons and how to be a good person. I think the best advice he gave me was when you are in a bind, go back to basics. It sounds simple, but sometimes we forget this. Another life lesson that I will never forget is “Don’t tell me, show me”.  Glenn Rothman (Hearts on Fire’s Found and CEO) uses this quote as well for his personal and professional life. My father never liked me telling him what I would do, or what my plans were- he was the type of person who wanted to see results.

My father always did his best to attend every practice/ recital/ performance that I ever had growing up. He would be the one who would pick me up from the nurse’s office when I was not feeling my best, make jook, and get whatever medication was needed to get me to my 100%. Perhaps 90% was that he wanted me to feel better right away so I could help with the family business but I know 10% was that he cared :)

Each day I am thankful that my father has given so much to me.
Fathers are like superman with an invisible cape. We love you!
Thank you fathers for all that you do! Congratulations to all the new dads out there!
When I asked my boyfriend’s dad, what is the most rewarding thing about being a father, he said “ Watching your kids grow up”. When I asked him what is the most challenging thing about raising your kids- he answered “the same thing,”.

You know you are Chinese when…

Lately, I have been spending more time with my Chinese friends and family. I notice, as I grow older, I am relating more to my parents and understanding their culture, views  and mannerisms. It is amusing to hear my friends exchange stories about their up bringing.

For example, I do think it is okay to hit your kids. I was hit as a kid, and I turned out fine (see photo below, i am still smiling!). However, you just cannot leave any marks- the U.S. looks down upon that. I am only joking!!!

Growing up in Texas though, it was that much harder to fit in. My parents did not understand why it was important to blend in and fit with the American ways. I knew I was different when I sported a knock-off Hello Kitty backpack that said “Happy Day Advtures” on the first day of school. Fast forward to my high school senior prom, I asked my mother for some money to attend the prom and she gave me $50.00. I asked her if it was for hair and make up. She responded, “It is for everything,”.

Top 6 ways to tell that you are Chinese…

1. Your parents gave you the bowl hair cut, save money
2. Your father thinks he can fix everything himself to save money
3. You/ your parents reuse foil, gift wrap, Ziploc bags
4. You/ your parents grab extra napkins, ketchup, sugar and other condiments that are available at McDonald’s/ Starbucks etc.
5. You parents do not say “I love you” or show physical affection
6. You carry Asian guilt for not following through with _______ (I am always guilted into things, enter situation in the blank given)


Top 6 acceptable career choices for the Chinese

1. Own your own business (and you must be successful at it. No holidays open 365)
2. Become an accountant (or in the financial field i.e.: )
3. Become a doctor/ dentist (anything in the medical field that requires a Ph.d)
4. Become an engineer
5.Become a computer programmer or a tech/IT related position
6. An attorney

This post is not to offend any of my people, but just stating my experiences. To my family and friends, please share your stories! I know I am NOT alone! Many immigrant families all have similar stories about saving money to give their child a better life. I want to learn more! One of my favorite movies of all time is My Big Fat Greek Wedding- I could TOTALLY relate to that movie on so many levels! Another favorite is Joy Luck Club! I think if you mashed the two movies together the movie would be about my life and my future wedding!

Aloha & Welcome Back!

For all those that read/subscribe to my blog, I would like to apologize for the delay and lag in entries. It has been a while since my last entry for a couple of reasons: (for those who happen to have stumble upon this awesome blog, and just so happen to read this entry, I promise it will be more interesting please keep reading!)

1.    Work. Enough said. We are planning for a special event that is happening in a couple of weeks, and now it is down to the wire. Now that work has been mentioned, I will need to plug that for all those looking for the perfect diamond, we have it at The Wedding Ring Shop! June 24th-June 26th, THREE DAYS ONLY!*

2.    The last three weeks, I have been busy on a family “vacation.”
I use quotes, as I the word vacation would imply that I would be relaxing when in reality, it was everything but that.

3.    Plain and simple, it has been busy.
Anyone who writes a blog, works, goes to school, has a family, being human, understand that life gets this way. I try as hard as I can to write daily. Many of my peers and colleagues write for a living,(and do it well!) I would like to give them credit, as I have been quite behind!

As some may know, for the last three weeks, I have been traveling on the East Coast. Throughout these three weeks, I have learned quite about me, my family, and reasons why Hawaii is one of the best places to live.
First, I realize that no matter what, I will always be me, and you will always be you. There is no changing that. It is important to understand that everyone is different and each person holds great strengths, yet is human and will make mistakes. The goal is to minimize the mistakes and to always make new ones.

This paragraph is really a note for me to remember to be compassionate, patient and forgiving. I am not sure if the first three sentences in this paragraph are even relevant.

The note for myself leads into my next topic about family. Ever notice that even as an adult, your parents, aunts/uncles, and cousins will always remember you as a certain age, and in their mind, you will always be six, or if you are lucky, 16. It does not matter if you graduate from an elite college, or if you are working professionally, or get married, or have kids of your own…some how, you never “really” grow up.*

My little brother graduated this weekend. He is the most handsome, smart, funny and amazing people in my life and I am so lucky that he is my little brother. My fondest memory is when my brother wanted me to watch Animaniacs with him each weekday afternoon over some fried noodles. Another fun time is when he and I went to Kahala Theatres to watch Pokemon and I fell sleep! I really miss those days. I am so proud of Michael for the man that he is and wish him the best in his future. He is one of the smartest people I know, and one of the kindest. (I guess it just runs in the family- just joking!)

*Just in case you are wondering, only one applies to me, one applies to my brother and the last two were told to me by friends. I did graduate, but not from an elite college.

Finally, reasons why Hawaii is the BEST place to live! I have spent three weeks on the mainland, and from these three weeks, I have been able to compare and contrast the following:

1.    People
a.    Boston
PRO: Quick, fast paced (which is great for lines in Starbucks) strong opinions, to the point.
CON: Many “locals” depending where you are surprised that Asians can speak English.
People can be impatient    and pushy
b.    Hawaii
PRO: Everyone is generally friendly and do not have ill intents.
CON: Hawaiian Time- enough said.

2.    Food
a.    Boston: Amazing ranges from European cuisine such as Italian, French (my favs) to
Mexican/ Spanish  influenced dishes! I love the food here, and the seafood here is BOMB! Lobster Heaven!

b.    Hawaii: I love the food in Hawaii too! Traditional Asian, Fusion, and local dishes are unique to
Hawaii served with aloha!  Something you cannot find anywhere else in the world.

3.    Weather
a.    Boston
PRO: Four seasons and it snows!
CON: It Snows… like 15 FT of snow and when we were visiting, so was a tornado!

b.    Hawaii
PRO: Great weather here all year round! I can run in the middle of “winter”
CON: We are prone to tsunamis, earthquakes, and hurricanes.